With our wedding three weeks away, Jason and I have a pretty important errand to run this week.
We have to go get our marriage license at the courthouse.
I will admit I wasn't quite sure how this whole process worked. It turns out it's fairly easy for a couple of straight people to get hitched. You fill out a form, you hand over $75 dollars and after you stand in front of the judge or religious person of your choosing, he or she signs your license and sends it off to the state for a seal of approval. The marriage becomes legally binding.
When I read the headlines Mexico City made the other day by announcing it was considering making "temporary" marriage licenses available, I felt sick. Mexico City lawmakers are proposing legislation that would allow couples to apply for a marriage license that is only valid for two years.
So much for commitment, huh?
If the couple decides at the end of two years that they want to extend their "contract," they can do so and the marriage will continue. If two years was enough, the license simply expires, and no divorce is needed. The two people just go their separate ways.
Let's not forget that Mexico is a country whose population largely identifies itself as Catholic. "Catholic" and "divorce" aren't exactly words the Pope likes to see together in the same sentence. The lawmakers proposing the legislation are presenting the two-year marriage license as a way to cut down on the financial costs and emotional trauma of getting divorced in a world where it is statistically known that a painfully high number of marriages end in divorce.
This legislation is going to cause a lot of controversy.
Don't get me wrong, I think divorce is a good thing for people who married each other and come to realize it was a mistake. Both of my parents found true love the second time around after going through painful divorces. Sometimes things don't work out. I get it.
Entering marriage with the attitude that it is temporary unless RENEWED by you and your spouse after two years seems just a bit too cynical even for this cynic. Imagine the conversations between couples at the courthouse in Mexico City.
"Honey, should we get the lifelong marriage license or should we just try it out for two years and see how it goes?"
I won't even get into how this proposed legislation makes heterosexual marriage look to the gay and lesbian community who have been in committed relationships for years but can't legally declare their commitment through marriage. It makes me wonder how hetero-only marriage proponents can even look themselves in the mirror.
So I have to ask myself - am I overreacting to this news story because I'm about to take the leap myself? Or is this legislation really repugnant? Why bother getting married at all if you think the person you're marrying might only have a shelf life of two years? Why bother even being with that person, marriage or no marriage, for that matter?
I'd like to think I'm not overreacting but sometimes when you're too close to something, you tend to lose perspective.
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