There are as many types of relationships between men and women as there are men and women themselves.
What works for one couple may not always work for another. No two couples are alike when it comes to how they choose to create their partnership.
As we approach 2012, an “old” type of relationship seems to be gaining ground and has become new again. Some couples seek to have what is called an interdependent partnership. If you and your partner share a common set of principles emotionally, economically, ecologically and morally, you have the ingredients for an interdependent relationship. The origins are surprisingly spiritual. It began as an espoused commitment for those entering into a relationship that combined the physical with the spirit.
This type of relationship is a dynamic combination of being mutually and physically responsible to each another. It differs distinctly from "dependence" in that an interdependent relationship implies both participants are equal partners. Many famous couples, such as Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie are interdependent. Both have successful careers, join together in charitable works, and both take responsibility for their relationship and family life.
The men and women who are interdependent accept the need for positive changes in their relationships seeing it as something that needs to grow and prosper. The main theme is commitment to the partnership itself.
Couples who have this type of relationship never give up their own identities however: there’s a distinct “me,” a distinct “you,” as well as a definite “us.” They recognize the importance of having and maintaining their own identity outside of the marriage, in addition to their specific identity as a couple. Sharing mutual respect with each other enables each person to work on individual personal goals and issues.
The great advantage in this type of partnership is that there is no one person who shoulders the entire financial or emotional burden. You and your partner are both responsible for the success of your life together.
Another aspect of interdependence is the setting of solid boundaries and limits in the relationship which allows each person to be accountable for his or her own actions. In other words, both partners take full responsibility for their part in the relationship and commitment is a priority.
Going into a relationship with the knowledge that you are not losing your sense of self or what you hold important, and that your partner is as concerned as you are about creating a lasting, strong partnership is a "new/old “spin on the idea of commitment. Being on the same page in a relationship makes for a healthy, happy life.
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2011 Kristen Houghton all rights reserved
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