Two Day Magazine

Reconnect through the beauty of touch

Touch is the language of the heart. It is pure, unadulterated by ambiguity. Where often our words can have differing meanings, and can even confuse us, a lover’s touch is clear in its intention. I love you, it says. I trust you. You are part of my own heart. And so from there we begin.

Remember the very first time you touched your partner? It was warm, and electric, and promising of honor and deep trust between you. You intuitively knew the journey with this person would be exciting, and fulfilling—for the both of you. And… it has been, because you know the Art of Touch. In the hustle and bustle of each day, more often mundane than romantic, you make touch your primary goal. If you are lucky, you awaken joyfully to find your partner next to you. If your lover happens to not be with you, you make contact as soon as you can, because even a phone call or a text message  is a kind of touch. It may not be what you prefer, but it keeps the heart warm.

You are always gentle, knowing that even the fiercest samurai warrior is a master of flower arrangement, of calligraphy and poetry, and of the tea ceremony. You may not practice ikebana flower design or write poetry or make ceremonial white tea for your loved one, but you rearrange her hair for her when it falls across her eyes, you splurge on the very best birthday and anniversary gifts, and your morning pot of coffee is to die for, especially when you serve it to her with breakfast in bed.

This gentleness extends from your heart to your hands. In the seconds before your eyes even meet, your voice has soothed her, your fingers have traced tenderly across her face, along her chin, down her neckline. You have been taught well by true gentlemen coming before you. You carry no expectations. You offer yourself to her, but it is always the woman who responds. This is the way it was when you first met, and you have allowed nothing of those first moments to digress into something unworthy of the love you profess together.

She responds favorably. She desires a deeper expression of the love you share. She reaches up and caresses your cheek, falling into you with her eyes. You place one hand on the small of her back and pull her close to you, and kiss her as she kisses you. She is weak in your arms now, and you lay her gently down, and you touch her only for an hour. Two hours? Who is counting? Time warps and melts and rearranges itself and stops and melds with the walls and draperies and bed… and with her as you make love. The Art of Touch, which is the glue holding any romantic relationship together, asks for a total surrender of the left brain to the right brain—of logistics and language to feeling, risk-taking, and imagination. This surrender needs more than just a few minutes of quick action in order to take hold and support the foundation of your relationship.

The world we live in is tough. But, it always has been. Nothing has changed in regard to the intense pressures put upon two people who want to walk through life together. We live in a throwaway society where relationships are disposable.  Divorce? Quickly becoming a thing of the past. Most couples don’t even make the marriage commitment anymore, convinced that something will come along to break the relationship apart. Yet, you and your lover know differently. What sets you apart from most couples? Your belief in, and total trust of, Touch… which begins in the heart unsullied by fear… of any kind.