Two Day Magazine

When Love Leaves

Your first time? Oh, sweet darling! It will be okay. Just know that it will. Yes, it does feel like you are going to die. It hurts. Really, really bad. However, fear not! Listen to others who have gone through it before, and have not only survived, but come out stronger and the better for it! There are thousands of reasons those we love leave us, but only one result for all of them. A broken heart.

It will heal. Here’s how.

Get quiet. Fight with all of your might not to lash out and try to hurt him or her in return. Don’t be spiteful just for the hell of it. You know you are hurting. They know you are hurting (and, just maybe, they are hurting, too!). There’s no need to abuse one another, especially if you really did love her; you really did cherish him. Omnia vincit amor, the old Latin saying goes. Love conquers all. You don’t believe it? Give it a try.

Understand the one you are no longer with. Understand her past. Understand his misgivings in life. Really love them! Take the position not that you have been hurt by someone who lied to you, but take the better position that you are both learning, that you both have made mistakes, and that next time you will remember every lesson you have learned and do it right! Next time you will love even harder, even fiercer, with more understanding and more forgiveness. You will make love your rule, and you will place it as a touchstone with your next partner, and follow it forever.
So, let’s get to more of the survival tactics.

After you’ve found that quiet, nurturing place of forgiveness (for yourself, too, if you need it!), do some remembering. What was that excellent book you were reading when he swept you off your feet? Hey! What happened to that really cool dude you were talking to about film in the library (be- fore SHE smiled at you from behind biographies!) Wow. You haven’t gone to see your grandfather since... last winter! Wait! When was the last time you called your mom to tell her you love and miss her?