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Here’s How To Get Out

Your relationship is moving right along, but lately it feels a bit more like it is coasting. Perhaps you’ve gotten a bit too comfortable with each other and although you are dating, you haven’t been on an actual “date” in months.

What can you do to make sure the time you spend together is fun and spicy and something you actually look forward to? Here are five tips for getting out of that relationship rut.

1. Set Fun Time and Work Time
When your mate comes home from a long day, they do not immediately want to talk about the new cleaning woman or the electric bill. These are boring topics! Set aside time to discuss these things so nothing is left hanging, but do not use valuable after work time or weekend time to delve into these bland topics. Isn’t it much more fun to have two glasses of wine waiting and talk about the funny movie you watched the other night? So what that the new cleaning woman sucks at cleaning the kitchen? It can wait.

2. Take a class together
Going out to dinner or the movies can get repetitive. Haven’t you always wanted to learn to make an amazing cocktail with elixirs and herbs that tastes great and doubles as an aphrodisiac? Try taking a mixology class together. Trummermixology offers classes that couples can do together where you mix and muddle your way to liking each other even more. Check your local deal sites like livingsocial.com, groupon.com, or giltcity.com for other deals going on in your area. Learning to fly a plane with your mate for 50% off – why not?!

3. Go Out With Your Friends
Your mate cannot be your everything. Although he loves you, he does not want to sip martinis for hours and talk about your obnoxious co-worker. That is what friends are for. Set aside one night per week to meet up with friends, alone, and dish the dirt, gossip, and just get all your gabbing out. The time apart will give your mate some space to do an activity that maybe you are not so interested in. It is also very likely that after you hear your friends complain about the guy who won’t call them back or their messy boyfriend, you will appreciate what you have at home even more.

4. Clean Up
Having a lot of extra things can cloud not only your home but your mind. Go through your clothes and ditch anything you haven’t worn in a year. For every new thing you buy, you must get rid of something you currently own. Having a simplistic and minimalist home will make the time you spend there with your mate more enjoyable. Although you may be trying to enjoy a nice night at home with wine and a movie, the pile of papers you can see on your desk subconsciously makes you not be fully focused on your time together. Clean that up!

5 .Give Compliments Freely
Once your relationship is moving right along, you may sometimes forget why you even liked this person in the first place. You were obviously attracted to them from the beginning, or else you would not be in this deep. Remember to tell them! A simple, “You look really good today,” can go a long way.

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