This week was very unsuccessful dating-wise.
I had a singles meet-up I was RSVP’d for but by Wednesday night I started to feel a sore throat. Thursday I was sick. Thursday night I was done for and after keeping a circus school commitment Friday morning, I was toast.
I started to wonder when the last time I was this sick was; then I remembered. My ex’s dad is in the medical field. I hadn’t had to worry about being sick in years. As long as it wasn’t a narcotic he could/would write a script.
It’s funny the little things you forget. I had been with my ex for over 6 years and never felt I “took advantage.” I didn’t really, but the fifth day of my throat burning I realized I did use the “advantage.” I was truly miserable when I called Scott.
It really made me think again about our relationship. Mine and Scott’s. If I would want to take the next step. He fixed me soup. Twice. Or more. He bought me EmergenC and MADE me drink it even though I HATED the taste. Although I was way too sick to work he helped me get dressed, made sure my make-up was ok and helped drive me. By then I knew. I knew I was too sick for him to be around me this much. Then, Scott got sick.
I felt miserable, he felt miserable and it was one sick person trying to care for another. After I made him sick, I felt horribly guilty for one (because I knew I was so sick he would catch it, too) but also because seeing him sick made me want to care for him.
My ex was different. He was a horrible sick person. Still is probably. He didn’t like me to comfort him. Scott was totally different. He let me care for him, as sick as I was myself. Scott has always known about my dating blog, and that I date. We have both always turned a blind eye you could say. When he was caring for me, when I was so sick, knowing my weekend plans, this was the first time I ever felt guilty.
And that feeling is way worse than this damn sore throat.
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Kimmie is a graphic designer, full time dog-mom and aspiring aerialist. You can keep up with her craziness on her blog life-withdogs.blogspot.com and follow her on twitter at @lifewithdoggies