When the news broke that Demi Moore filed for divorce from Ashton Kutcher, there seemed to be a collective groan and "DUH" muttered from everyone.
She's 49. He's 32. Rumors of cheating swirled around this couple before but this time, rumors that proved to be true.
The news reports have reported more on Demi Moore's weight loss and attempts to salvage her marriage than the infidelity of her soon-to-be-ex. On the heels of these news stories come the allegations that Moore and Kutcher had an open-relationship to accommodate Moore's alleged bisexuality.
Chelsea Handler even went on Piers Morgan's talk show to claim that the Moore-Kutcher threesomes helped Kutcher line up twosomes. A statement like that shifts the blame solely onto Moore by suggesting that her interest in threesomes led to her husband's cheating.
News reports claim that Kutcher has been buying Moore expensive gifts like $100,000 cars in an effort to prevent Moore from filing for divorce. And Moore is, every so subtly, being painted as a scorned wife who is rebuffing her apologetic and sorrowful husband's last ditch efforts to save his marriage.
While no one can know what exactly went on in their marriage, we can see the aftermath of the marriage as it is falling apart. Though he is the cheater, Kutcher is not being lambasted by the media. Moore is being painted by the media as the innocent victim and as the oversexed bisexual cougar.
But, how can she be both? I suspect the accusations of bisexuality are partly to blame. Expressing female sexuality independent of traditional heterosexual relationships is often perceived as a threat to our mainstream culture. When Kutcher and Moore married, you would assume that their sexual orientations were something they discussed openly and accepted.
Maybe Kutcher did accept it. Maybe it is the media that is having the issue with it. Women who get caught cheating publicly are few and far between. Stereotypes about women and sex tell us that women just aren't wired to cheat and that we equate love with sex. Men, on the other hand, are seen often as sexual beings who can't help but cheat.
That Moore and Kutcher were into threesomes somehow seems, in the eyes of some, to excuse the fact that Kutcher cheated.
Of course he would cheat, right? Moore was into women so that made it ok, didn't it?
Whatever their agreement was, when it came to their sexual life inside their marriage, the covenant was broken and their marriage crumbled. The fact that Moore's sexual identity is being questioned as a result of Kutcher's indiscretions is sexist and demeaning to women who embrace their sexuality.
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