Two Day Magazine

A Man's Perspective

We are told that no one is complete without a partner. But, across the board, this position is far from being true. According to a popular shamanic theory, only those conceived by bored parents don’t have the sex drive required to hold a relationship together. So, in theory, the healthiest relationships are driven by the libido—and the libido finds its ability at the moment of your conception. If your parents were excited, then you’ll be excited. If they were just trying to keep warm, then you won’t have the energy for both sex and life at the same time. Not knowing this, many people enervate themselves by having sex when they don’t have the libido for it to begin with.

If you are trying to discover whether you can be complete without a partner or not, the obvious first thing to do would be to test your sexual stamina. This can be done in two different ways—and we all know what those are! So, let’s say you find out your parents were bored the moment you were conceived. If we’re going with what the shamans are saying, you’re either faced with enervation or celibacy. Now, if it so happens that you have a libido that just won’t quit, you’ll have to decide what kind of relationship you want—because no doubt you’ll need one!

Monogamy has been shown to work. Many long-time married couples attest to it, and the ones willing to talk about it are usually pretty happy. Polygamy also works— but only when the ego has been completely subdued for everyone involved. There can be no desire left for monogamy. Far too many marriages are destroyed when both partners, supposedly polyamorous, decide to “take someone into” their bed. 

What about no-strings-attached (NSA) relationships? If done properly, these arrangements are prostitution without the exchange of money. Into that? Great! But, chances are, you’ll end up with multiple partners, so always remember to practice safe sex.

Remember, there’s always the ‘FB’ arrangement. This is when two platonic friends decide they want more from eachother in a primal way. The partnership ensuing can be very rewarding.

Having said that, can a person be complete without a partner? Yes and no. Yes, I can be complete—and should be complete—in my work, goals, hobbies and other interests in life. As a man, I know that it is just this completeness which attracts women to me. A woman wants a warrior, plain and simple. ‘I’m heading out to hunt down some wild game for you—be back next week’ has a surprisingly opposite effect on a woman’s libido than what our over-civilized minds have been force-fed, mainly by debilitated academic types, to believe.

And, yes, it’s the same with men. Why does the man race out of the yurt when a woman undoes her blouse and begins to breast-feed? Is it because he thinks it’s unnatural, and just has to get away from that weirdness? Just the opposite. He’s not sure he needs yet another mouth to feed, and if he hangs around a second longer, her powerful womanliness will spell his doom—at least for the remainder of the evening. He might wear the pants in the family, but she harvests the flax and weaves the cloth. Figuratively, of course, in our own American culture—but nevertheless, true. ‘Yes, dear’ is something every happy man on Earth has learned to say--and really mean.

So, completeness without a partner? It apparently depends entirely on my libido. Not something my practical side wants to hear--but something my ‘in touch’ side not only understands, but applauds... whenever my hands are free, anyway.