Two Day Magazine

Not Everyone Wants a Relationship...

In our society, everyone is expected to pair up and live happily ever after. But, sometimes, after careful consideration and observing people in relationships, one may come to the conclusion that being single is just fine, thank you very much. Who wants to deal with someone else’s drama, moodiness, and baggage? Why come home to tension and stress? If dating is so much fun, why is it everywhere you look, people are fighting and frustrated with one another? I have a secret to share. Many people in relationships envy you. Here’s why:

1. It’s Your Space.
    Your home is your own. No one is living with you, no one is cluttering your space, no one is drinking the last of the soy milk and not replenishing it. Things are left where you put them, you don’t have to worry about being nagged if your apartment is messy, you can feel free to walk around in sweatpants with zit cream on your face and it doesn’t matter. There is a certain sense of satisfaction to staying up late and playing video games all night and not having to worry if someone is going to poke their head out of the bedroom and roll their eyes, isn’t there?    

2. Variety is the spice of life.
    No one ever said that single people are celibate! Without any of the guilt or fear of cheating on a lover, you are free to explore the people around you, sleeping with that sexy guy or gal you met at the gym, and not worrying about calling them for a date later in the week. Single people have the ability to pursue anyone they want without the repercussions of coming home to an angry partner. Just remember, safety first!

3. You can actually have a hobby. (Or two)
    Isn’t it wonderful to come home from work or dinner and just relax, alone, uninterrupted and able to enjoy some time to focus on the things you love to do? Whether it’s yoga, reading a great book, building model airplanes, cooking gourmet meals, volunteering for your favorite charity, or learning a new language, being single gives you more time to discover who you are, what you want from this life, and what activities bring joy into your life. Often times, people in relationships get so stuck on one another’s needs and wants, they forget to nurture their own. Not you! You can actually take the time to love yourself.

4. Friendships can flourish.
     No one likes to admit it, but many couples neglect their friendships that they held so dear once upon a time. It’s hard to make room for all of the people in your life. While some can balance relationships with romance, it can be tiring and stressful. Not having a relationship opens your time up to have fun with your friends. Whether you meet them for coffee around the corner or meet them in Europe on a whim, being single can bring you closer to the friends you love to be with.

5. You have total freedom.
    You never have to “check in” with someone. You can come and go as you please, do what you want, go where you want, live where you want. Without all of the ties holding you to someone, you are free to roam the world, searching for new partners, new romances, new adventures.

Whatever your reason is for being single, remember, there are pros and cons to every lifestyle, but the important thing is to enjoy yourself, have fun in this life, and if you don’t like your situation, only you have the power to change it. Nothing wrong with being single and ready to mingle, after all!