Two Day Magazine

Abusive relationships can take many shapes and forms. Intimate partner violence has become an increasingly public health issue that costs the United States billions of dollars each year.

While men can also be survivors of intimate partner violence, women are the primary targets of these violent acts. Gay or straight, rich or poor, young or old, intimate partner violence can affect anyone, so it is important to know the warning signs.

If you find yourself to be in a dangerous situation, reach out. There are hotlines, shelters and counseling centers that are available all across the nation to assist you in making decisions to move your life forward and be the healthiest, happiest you.
 
Here are 10 signs that you may be in an abusive relationship:

• Does your partner intensely fear you cheating on him or her? Does this fear cause them to act overly possessive of you or extremely jealous of you?

• Do you notice that your partner will explode with anger or act impulsively when things do not go his or her way?

• Does your partner try to dictate what you wear when you are leaving the house?

• Do you find that your partner is very clingy, never wants to leave your side and insists on spending all of his/her time with you?

• Does your partner have problems controlling his/her anger?

• Is your partner demanding, frequently rough or overly aggressive when engaging in sexual activities with you?

• Is there a history of your partner threatening to slap, kick or punch you after or during a disagreement?

• Does your partner become hostile or violent after binge drinking?

• Do you notice that your partner attacks your self-confidence or resorts to name calling during an argument?

• Does he or she have a history of abusing his or her past partner?

If any of these signs seem familiar, or if you notice that your partner tends to want to control your relationship and your personal life in other ways, through cyber stalking or other forms of communication, controlling the finances, or using your pet as a way to keep you from leaving, there could be a serious issue that needs to be dealt with.

Remember, you are never to blame for your partner’s rage or controlling behavior. The only thing you can do is find a way to be safe. If you find yourself in a dangerous situation, there is help out there. Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE or check out their website to find services in your area.

And remember, love never hurts.

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