You never get anywhere without other’s help.
I played my first round at my second U.S. Open and felt a tinge of pain.
After playing poorly, I took time to evaluate my life and what I’ve done over the last few weeks in preparation. I practiced everyday. I trained with my strength coach. I talked the mental side with my golf coach. I took all the steps I felt necessary to play well. But alas, something didn’t click.
I have a whole team of people that work very hard for me to make sure I reach my potential. They all give me a hundred percent and work overtime to ensure that I’m given the best opportunity to succeed. This team includes everyone from my golf coach, family, sponsors, strength coach, and golf courses in the Pittsburgh area that have given me a place to practice and train.
While I have all the tools necessary, there are aspects of my personal life I feel have held me back from doing my best. The last five months I went through an upheaval. I broke up with my boyfriend with whom I moved to Pittsburgh for. Then I moved into a friend’s house, but then moved out of my friend’s house when I found an apartment. However, I had to move out of my apartment after finding mold there, and now I am moving in with a family at a club where I practice. i have had no order or stability. My mind is not clear, and most of the time I feel overwhelmed because my personal life is not where I need nor want it to be.
This is where my team comes in. Without them, my life would be in even more chaos. These people have made sacrifices because they believe in my ability to play golf. They believe I have what it takes to be the best and provide the guidance for me to get there. However, I have not taken fully advantage of the help provided to me. There is a part of me that is stubborn, and likes things to be done my way. That is part of the reason why my life is at times chaotic. I don’t allow people in to help or perhaps give me the direction I at times desperately need.
There comes a point where an individual has to reassess choices they’ve made to see how those choices have either propelled that person towards a successful life or down a beaten path. While I haven’t made choices that have completely derailed me from succeeding in golf, the choices I have made have not made it any easier. While I need to learn from those choices, I also need to learn that other people have insight I may have not considered before. Whether it’s through nutrition or the way I practice, there are many topics in life that I am not an expert in.
I also struggle with help when it is given with no expectations of receiving anything in return. Why do all these people want to help I ask myself. What is it that they are trying to gain from me? I have a hard time seeing that I am worthy of people just being kind to me. There is something to be said about those willingly help others because they get satisfaction from seeing that person succeed. That’s it and nothing more. And while I may not feel worthy of this help, I have to accept that I have a great opportunity to get help from people who really care about me. To not listen to them when many times i don’t know what the heck I’m doing doesn’t make any sense. What I’m doing isn’t working, so I suppose it’s time to let people in and guide me.
Someone told me recently, “You don’t get anywhere in life without other’s help.” I haven’t made it this far on my own. I’m guessing I’ll make it further once I stop listening to just my own voice and take into consideration the advice and counsel of people who are on my side.
No woman is an island, so I think it is time I started building some bridges.
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