There are good boys, bad boys, and then there are mama's boys--the type of guys who are always judging their women by that yardstick of perfection--dear old mom. I mean we've all seen the tattoos!
While devotion between mother and son is, of course, wonderful, if you're not careful you could find yourself stuck in a perpetual second place to the woman who gave your guy birth. So what can a girl of a mama's boy do? We asked relationship expert and founder of the online magazine twoday, Natalie Bencivenga, the secrets of dating a mama's boy.
First up - what are some of the warning signs to be on the look out for when dating someone new?
"Does your boyfriend start every sentence with: 'This one time, when I was with my mom...' or 'Wow, you sound just like mom' (but in a wistful sort of way?) You may be dating a serious mama’s boy." She laughs. "Mama’s boys often times live within a five mile radius of their mother (if not in their mama’s basement). They defer to her for every decision, they regard her as the Queen of all things domestic, and they expect you to embrace her philosophies (and recipes) immediately upon entering the relationship."
And living up to Mom and her recipe box can be daunting for even the most steadfast girl. Natalie says it's important not to repress your feelings about the situation.
"Eventually, something small will set you off and you will find yourself flying into a nagging rage about all the tension built up and acting, well, just like his mother," she says. "Instead, verbalize to him that you feel as though he is expecting you to 'fill' his mother’s shoes. You are his lover, not his maid. Not his cook. Not his nanny."
And make sure to put that foot down early in the relationship. "You don’t want to begin to take over mom’s responsibilities and expect things to change two years down the road," Natalie points out. "And, guess what? If he doesn’t like it...he can go cry to his mommy. You’re looking to date men, not boys!"
Read the rest of the interview at Galtime.com