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***This question comes from Sirius Radio’s Doctor Radio Channel 114  (XM 119) that I was fortunate enough to be a guest of on Tuesday, February 8, 2011: The Psychiatry Show with Dr. Michael Aronoff***

Dear Natalie,

I have been married 41 years to my wife. We got married very young, as that’s how things were done back then. I knew something was missing in our marriage about 30 years ago, but we had a family, and she is a good woman, so I never acted on anything I was feeling. Well, about a year ago, I ran into a woman from high school that I hadn’t seen in years. I wasn’t anything special back then, but she was prom queen and quite a beauty. Our relationship started out as a friendship, but then things became romantic about six months ago. I would never leave my wife, and she knows that, but I am madly in love with this other woman. My wife and I are in therapy (I told her the truth) and now she watches me like a hawk. I ended the romance with the other woman, but I still miss her. I love her and I love my wife. Is it possible to be in love with two women at the same time?

-John from Texas

***This question comes from Sirius Radio’s Doctor Radio Channel 114  (XM 119) that I was fortunate enough to be a guest of on Tuesday, February 8, 2011: The Psychiatry Show with Dr. Michael Aronoff***

Dear Natalie,

I have been married for 16 years to a man that I thought was my soulmate. Unfortunately, the last five years or so, he has shown to be otherwise. He has had a troubled past and has had trouble with the law and with drugs. But, I thought all of that was behind us. His work causes him to travel a lot, and he has become increasingly paranoid and controlling as the years have gone by. I was recently accused of having an affair, which killed me, considering I would never dream of breaking our wedding vows, and my husband even hired someone to follow me while he was away. Well, I also just discovered that he had hidden cameras throughout the home to watch me. I have small children, and the environment at home has been so bad, that I wanted to leave him. Now I have a reason. I discovered he has been having an affair, and when I confronted him, he didn’t deny it, but he blamed it on me. I have since moved out with my children. Did I make the right choice? I just feel so betrayed and lied to. Was I just blind because I loved him? Was he always this way?

-Nancy

***This question comes from Sirius Radio’s Doctor Radio Channel 114  (XM 119) that I was fortunate enough to be a guest of on Tuesday, February 8, 2011: The Psychiatry Show with Dr. Michael Aronoff***

Dear Natalie,

I have been married for 28 years to my husband. We have four boys who are the loves of my life. But, my husband and I are very disconnected and we are constantly fighting. There is so much tension in the house and I don’t know how to remedy it. We have tried couples’ therapy, but my husband always seems to blame shift our problems entirely on to me, which isn’t fair. He didn’t want to continue working on our relationship. While our children were growing up, I was the one raising them while he would undermine any disciplinary actions I would take; he couldn’t handle them and didn’t want to help me out around the house. A lot of resentment and anger has built up, and to make it worse, my sons often gang up on me about the relationship, as well. My husband is very critical of me, and I can never seem to do anything right. Has too much water gone under the bridge to save our marriage? I feel as though he doesn’t even try and he won’t go to individual counseling, either, even though I have.

-Robyn

***This question comes from Sirius Radio’s Doctor Radio Channel 114  (XM 119) that I was fortunate enough to be a guest of on Tuesday, February 8, 2011: The Psychiatry Show with Dr. Michael Aronoff***

Dear Natalie,

Can you give some tips on how to “fall back in love” with your partner? Many people say that once you have fallen out of love, you can’t fall back in. But, I have been married for over 35 years and we still are madly in love with one another. We believe in affection and the “30 second kiss”. Your thoughts?

Sincerely,

Laura