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Greetings and Salutations Natalie,

I have stumbled upon your sex and relationship advice columns as of this evening, and after reading some of them, I finally decided to muster the courage to send you this message. I am a straight single male, early 40's, who has a fetish for women's feet and legs in pantyhose.

Now mind you, I don't go crazy every time I see a women's legs and feet encased in nylons, be it pantyhose, stocking, tights, or even trouser socks. But I always happen to catch a glance from time to time, in which I immediately become aroused. A few years ago, I had no problems accommodating my fetish, as I've dated and befriended several women who has worn them for me on many occasions... Even if we stayed in and watch DVD movies.

I'm currently finding a woman for a LTR, and not just to engage in my fetish, per se. But so far, I've had not a modicum of luck with this online dating thing. So in the meantime, what advice can you offer for me so I can have a "temporary fulfillment"? Should I pay a prostitute, check out an escort service, place an ad in an alternative dating website, or what?

I'm not looking for a relationship or sex (but I am currently seeking a significant other, as previously implied). Just a friend to be silly and play around with, just as long as she feels safe, respected, and loved. I honestly don't care if I'm giving a foot massage, playing footsies under the table, or kiss the silky toes of a 50 year old woman. Really, I just want to explore this part of me very badly, and it would be wonderful if someone who sincerely shared that passion could be the one there with me. I don't even care if it's just a simple footsie or a nylon foot massage session and that's it. That would be fun. Just a shy, normal guy here. Thanks so much for your time in reading this message. It means a lot to me.

Sincerely,

Lonely Pantyhose Devotee

Dear Natalie,

My husband and I have completely opposite schedules. I’m in school getting my Master’s and he is a lawyer and we are never home together. It is really affecting our sex life and the only day we do have together (Sunday) we have all this work around the house to do and errands to run and never seem to connect. This has been happening now for a few months and it is starting to worry me. Any suggestions?

-Separation Anxiety

Dear Natalie,

Is it true that if you sleep with a guy on the first date he will never see you as “girlfriend” material? I just met this great guy and we ended up in bed after an awesome first date. It’s been two days and no word from him. What should I do?

--Too Much Too Soon?

***This question came from my appearance on the Dr. Radio Show, Sirius XM Channel 81: The Sexual Health Hour with Dr. Miriam Greene (who is so fantastic!) on Oct. 3, 2011****

Dear Natalie,

I find porn to be disgusting. If I caught my husband watching porn, I think I would divorce him. It’s immoral and I don’t want anything to do with it. My girlfriends think I am nuts and don’t understand why I can’t just let go and fantasize during sex. They say that porn helps them to think of fun ideas to do in bed. But I disagree. Who’s right? Is it weird that I don’t like to fantasize?

--No Porn in MY House

Dear Natalie,

Is it okay to wear heels even if it makes me taller than my date? I have just started dating someone who I really like, but he is two inches shorter than me. (I’m 5’11’’.) Every time I wear heels, I feel like a giant over him, but I don’t want to give up my shoes! He doesn’t seem to mind, but we do get looks from other people when we are out together and I’m in heels. Any suggestions?

--Stiletto Lover

****This question came from my appearance on the Dr. Radio Show, Sirius XM Channel 81: The Sexual Health Hour with Dr. Miriam Greene (who is so fantastic!) on Oct. 3, 2011****

Dear Natalie,

I am engaged and in a long distance relationship with a man who makes more money than me. I feel as though the power is off in the relationship. Not only does he make more money, but he also travels quite frequently for work (he is a truck driver) and is gone a good part of the week. I quit my second job to spend more time with him, and I am in school, as well. I’m 20, he is 21. He talks to whoever he wants (including a 14-year-old girl that he has been speaking to.) but doesn’t allow me to have very many friends, especially guy friends. I don’t know why I am not allowed to have guy friends, and the fact that he has so many “girl friends” is really bothering me. What should I do? I am worried I am in a controlling relationship.

--Wants Love

Dear Natalie,

My new boyfriend asked me how many guys I have slept with. He told me he has only slept with four women. He’s 30, I’m 28. I’ve slept with a lot more than four men. But I was afraid he would think less of me if he knew my actual number, so I told him I had only been with three guys. This seemed to satisfy him. I think he was worried that if I slept with more guys than he did girls, somehow I’d have the upper hand. I feel really shitty about lying, and I kind of want to tell him the real truth, but I worry now that not only will he think I am a slut, but that I’m a lying slut. I’m a modern woman, I don’t care about the number, so why does he? Should I confess what my real number is?

--What’s in a Number