Don’t you ever think to yourself, “Wow, how did this person end up with THAT person? They don’t even make sense together!”
Well, you aren’t the only one. Sometimes, it seems as though people will date someone that doesn’t even suit them rather than spend their Saturday nights alone.
But for every type of person, there is a complementary type, they just don’t always seem to match up. Here is a list of “types” of people that work well together...and others that don’t.
Type A: The Sensitive Soul
You are the person that sees a stray kitten on the side of the road and takes it home to nurture it. You often drop coins into the cup of that one homeless guy who sits outside your office building everyday. You actually remember to send people birthday cards, and you think a good movie is one in which you smile through the tears. You are thoughtful and considerate, in tune to people’s emotions.
Date THIS, Not THAT: As a sensitive person, it may seem counterintuitive to date another sensitive type. (With all that empathy between you, nothing would get done!) Instead, you assume that dating someone who is different from you will bring other strengths to the table. But, unfortunately, you end up dating someone who walks all over you and sees your sensitivity as a weakness to be exploited. Don’t fall for it. That “badass” at the bar you met the other night will only bring you stress and frustration. Instead, find someone that also has similar interests and a similar disposition. You found a kitten? They work at an animal shelter....get the idea?
Type B: Outdoorsy
You love all the different seasons of the year because you can plan different fun outdoor activities. Camping has your name written all over it. You grow your own tomatoes and scoff at people who buy basil at the store. You own Timberlands in every style and your favorite store may just be R.E.I. Bike riding is your main form of transportation and you wouldn’t have it any other way.
Date THIS, Not THAT: When one is outdoorsy (and I’m talking a real nature lover) you have to find that special someone who enjoys getting their hands a little dirty from time to time. Sure, you may think that dating an “indoor” girl or guy can work, opposites attract, right? You like camping, but their idea of camping is a three-star hotel. Things may seem exciting at first, but the shine quickly wears off and you are left with someone who doesn’t have the same passions as you do. Instead of trying to fit a round peg in a square hole, why not instead find that guy or gal that appreciates the great outdoors in the same way you do? Making love under the stars never sounded so good...
Type C: The Artsy One
Theatre is special to you. Art gallery crawls excite you. You have been creating (and/or appreciating) the arts for a very long time. New books are quickly downloaded to your Kindle, and you enjoy indie films from time to time. In essence, you are a quirky romantic who often feels as though you are living in the wrong era.
Date THIS, Not THAT: Many times what ends up happening to the artsy ones is that they become overtaken by their not-so-artsy partners. Much like the sensitive types, the artsy ones often date their complete opposites, which usually doesn’t pan out to much. An artist doesn’t have to date another artist, but you should seek out someone who understands and appreciates the beauty found in the world. If you have a partner who can see what you see, your world will be much more colorful.
Type D: The Academic
Where to find you on a Saturday afternoon: In a bookstore, reading the latest non-fiction, sipping a latte, and contemplating string theory. Academics may have their noses in the books, but when it comes to dating, they often seem to have their heads in the clouds. Being someone who thinks rationally and logically about everything else, you would think dating would be the same. But instead, they are often swept up by idealistic notions of love.
Date THIS, Not THAT: You would be surprised how many academic types date (to put it nicely) not-so-academic types. And that just won’t cut it. Sure, on the surface you may think, “Wow, this guy/girl is super hot and totally into me. What else do we need to make this work?” Well, I can tell you that with academic types, seduction starts in the mind. To keep an intellectual’s attention, you have to bring your A-Game conversation every time. Anything less will lead to boredom (both in and out of the bedroom). Try dating an artsy type, like above. The complement of right brain, left brain intelligence could lend itself to very stimulating conversations...if you catch my drift.
Type E: The Social Butterfly
A typical Friday night involves drinks, dancing, or a networking event. You like to catch the latest movies, hit up the trendiest bar, and happy hour is a religious experience to you. In essence, being around other people not only excites you, but it sparks that fire that makes you glow. People love to be around you, and you just love to be around people.
Date THIS, Not THAT: So why is, butterfly, that you often let someone clip those wings? I know plenty of people that love to go out, and become so consumed with their homebody partner that they slowly start to disappear. I’ve seen it happen time and time again. But, you have to resist that urge to date your opposite, or I worry that someone is just going to dim your fabulous shine. Instead, find that balance. When one person is more outgoing than the other, it can work out really well, but they have to respect the fact that you need to get out and socialize with and without them. Dating someone who appreciates and loves your ability to take center stage can be very sexy...and can be a real turn-on, too!
Life is full of interesting people, and this is just a sampling of different types of people you will meet in this world. But remember, no matter who you date, finding someone who respects and complements your personality is always going to be a much better fit than the ones where you have to constantly “make it work.” Sure, dating takes effort, but it shouldn’t be a chore!
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